Saturday, May 17, 2014

Erickson's Stages of Development

Pick a stage you'd like to do over so you can get it right.


Stage Basic Conflict Important Events Outcome
Infancy (birth to 18 months) Trust vs. Mistrust Feeding Children develop a sense of trust when caregivers provide reliabilty, care, and affection. A lack of this will lead to mistrust.
Early Childhood (2 to 3 years) Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt Toilet Training Children need to develop a sense of personal control over physical skills and a sense of independence. Success leads to feelings of autonomy, failure results in feelings of shame and doubt.
Preschool (3 to 5 years) Initiative vs. Guilt Exploration Children need to begin asserting control and power over the environment. Success in this stage leads to a sense of purpose. Children who try to exert too much power experience disapproval, resulting in a sense of guilt.
School Age (6 to 11 years) Industry vs. Inferiority School Children need to cope with new social and academic demands. Success leads to a sense of competence, while failure results in feelings of inferiority.
Adolescence (12 to 18 years) Identity vs. Role Confusion Social Relationships Teens need to develop a sense of self and personal identity. Success leads to an ability to stay true to yourself, while failure leads to role confusion and a weak sense of self.
Young Adulthood (19 to 40 years) Intimacy vs. Isolation Relationships Young adults need to form intimate, loving relationships with other people. Success leads to strong relationships, while failure results in loneliness and isolation.
Middle Adulthood (40 to 65 years) Generativity vs. Stagnation Work and Parenthood Adults need to create or nurture things that will outlast them, often by having children or creating a positive change that benefits other people. Success leads to feelings of usefulness and accomplishment, while failure results in shallow involvement in the world.
Maturity(65 to death) Ego Integrity vs. Despair Reflection on Life Older adults need to look back on life and feel a sense of fulfillment. Success at this stage leads to feelings of wisdom, while failure results in regret, bitterness, and despair.


Erickson sure sees plenty of opportunity for failure, doesn't he.  Can't we all get "participation" certificates and just move on to the next stage?

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

private

Some of the ancient greek philosophers called the point of life: Eudaimonia.It's commonly translated as Happiness,but I belive a more accurate translation would be Fittingness...How well your actions match yours gifts,match who you are... Perrick Jensen, 'Walking on water'... I can't say it better...

Can you afford to be humble?

From a NYTimes article "The Luxury of Humility"

"...the spirit of wabi-sabi, a Japanese philosophy that embraces humility at its core"


From left: the kitchen off the living room is intimate in scale, but still signature Vervoordt — dramatic, rich and full of atmosphere; a view to one of the smaller bedrooms from its bathroom shows the character of the furniture carefully selected for the apartment.


Vervoordt whitewashed the door of the wardrobe in the master bedroom himself, one of many handmade elements in the suite. Above the fireplace (one of four), a TV is concealed behind what looks like an abstract painting, but is a panel made of antique Flemish linen. 

Thursday, May 8, 2014

food religion

“salvation by personal effort”—the idea that choosing the correct ways of behaving and consuming can make you a better person. 


we’re buying exactly what we’re being sold, telling ourselves all the while that it makes us good people, that we’re saving our bodies and maybe our souls. 

 from The Gluten Free God